Baby shower dilemma- Am I wrong to be bugged by this?

I can understand how you are feeling. The time for them being financially well off might not be good right now. You just went above and beyond for them. It seems like you are a very giving person and not everyone is as thoughtful as you. If you are going to be unhappy with the shower you have a right to politely decline their offer. :) Good luck!

I think it's ok for you to be bugged by it but don't dwell on it. Some people just don't have the "host bone". You might be a very creative, organized host; while they don't share that talent. I threw my sister's baby's birthday party and I loved it! She admits she couldn't have pulled it off for her own son though. Personally, I didn't have enough room for my sister's shower so we had to rent a room too. And some people can't cook so you might be glad for professionaly prepared food in the long run! However, they should not ask you to pay or help in any way. When you are being honored nothing should be asked of you. And you're right, the thought is nice. Showers are not required so I certainly don't think they are taking advantage of you now. Both your friends have children of their own now (you might not have when you did theirs) plus the economy is nothing like it was a few years ago. Maybe after you are a mom you'll see the simple joy in hanging out with adult friends at a nice restaurant LOL Just relax and take what you can get ;-)

Without knowing their financial situations compared to your it's kind of hard to say. I can see where you are disappointed but you should also take into consideration what they can afford.

Maybe offer to have it at your house-at least then you don't have to transport all of those gifts!

Ask them to talk about their budget for the shower and see where they can go cheap and where they should splurge. It doesn't have to cost a fortune to be a nice shower but they should know you well enough to know what you would like. Best I can say is appreciate what they can do and talk to them about any of your concerns.

I absolutely understand why you would be bothered by this. I would too. At least they are making the attempt. You're going to have fun at your shower no matter where the location. It's another reminder that you're baby is almost here and you get tons of awesome gifts and cute clothes to take home!

Just at thought...offering your house to your friends to use for the shower isn't a bad idea. You don't have to be there for them to get everything arranged, and in the end, you don't have to worry about lugging stuff home. It's all already there.

Be thankful for what your friends are doing. In the end, does it really matter?

As you will soon learn that babies/kids are expensive. Now that your friends have kids they sound like they don't have any extra money for party throwing. I think that you can have a very tasteful party on a low budget. The point of the party is to celebrate the new life. Don't worry about how fancy or for that matter not fancy it is going to be. You will appreciate the fact that everyone coming is coming for you and not to attend a high end party.

It's your hormones speaking!! J/K. Anyways, you quoted "And I did this honestly not expecting anything in return." That sums it all. You should be thankful that someone is actually taking their time & energy to do a baby shower for you. Just think that your a better party planner.

If this does bother you, then tell them how you feel.

Don't get greedy. The important thing is to celebrate the joy of your impending miracle with your friends and family. It doesn't matter where it's held, how it's decorated, or what food is served -- you can be a gracious Mommy under any circumstances. Just thank your friends for loving you enough to throw you a party, and enjoy it. Let go of the material aspect and just enjoy the celebration.

They don't have the money. At least they are trying. I'm sure they would love to throw you a big, amazing shower but maybe it's just not possible. Appreciate what you get.

Don't be greedy. They are trying their best. You should count yourself lucky. I would love a baby shower but I don't really have close friends or family. So I won't be having one. It really upsets me sometimes, I would be grateful If I got anything.