I am a quiet person and am shy around people I do not know. My bf said I have to change that Should I be hurt?

To start with he should not be trying to change you. take a good look at him and how he treats you. If this comment is coming out of concern then he must be satisfied with what ever answer you give him but if it is hurting you and he is not showing any empathy then you should consider letting him go. as to begin with he should be lighting up your fire and letting you be you with out change and who knows maybe your shyness would melt with out pressure. His concern should be why you are so shy , not just urging you to snap out of it. don't worry everything comes in good time. and he should know that :)

Hey...you're not overreacting. I understand that what he said could hurt you, but look at it this way. He loves you, for who you are but love is also about bringing out the best in each other. If he asks you to work on getting over your shyness, its probably because it's the right thing to do and he wants you to do well in life by gettin over it. It also shows how he cares for you as well for your future.

Someday, when you do get over it, and feel like a different and more confident person, you'll remember him and he'll be proud of you. =)

Your boyfriend is right, being shy in long run will make you lose out on a lot opportunities. Self-confidence is very importrant for the outside world. Maybe the way your boyfriend put it was a bit tactless. But it doesn't mean he doesn't care about you. Also it is understandable if your feelings were hurt. You should let him know, don't be shy ;-)

the subsequent time you bypass living house to bypass on your friends, convey your BF alongside and enable him get to be conscious of your loved ones. i'm specific your loved ones/friends would be overjoyed to fulfill him too. As for being along with his friends, i'm specific his ex-college friends have better halves/GF who are not area of the college team. you are able to initiate up via speaking to them. Your BF has to play an element in bringing you into their verbal substitute as properly. the 1st time you meet them, you in all probability spent various time listening. the subsequent time you meet them lower back, you would be conscious of slightly approximately them - you are able to ask questions approximately their jobs or communicate approximately secure subjects like nutrition/eating places, commute and flicks. it must be your nature which you're quiet yet you're able to make the hassle to start up a verbal substitute. this could somewhat provoke your BF.

You should try to loosen up a little 'cuz shyness is something i have too. but as soon as i loosened up, i made a lot more friends. as for your bf, explain that it hurt but you will try to not be shy.

Depends, how much of it sounded like he loved you when he said it, and how much of it sounded like he really disliked that part of you?

He might still love you for who you are, but just want the best for you, and the future kids he wants with you.

It's true, we could all work on not being too shy. but..Your boyfriend shouldn't want you to change anything! you should thing about your relationship...

You aren't over-reacting..I feel for you..

talk to him about it! tell him he hurt you!

I think that your boyfriend should accept you for the way you are and if he wanted a more outgoing woman, he probably should find one.

yes you should because if he loves you and wants to be with you he should accept you for who you are not try to mold u into what he wants you to be