Help me !! I live in a 3 bedroom house with my hubby ,girl and my brother no one helps me clean .i go to work and come home to clean my home?

Discuss with your brother and share the work with his gf. If it is not possible arrange with your husband and shift to a 2 bedroom house. Let the brother to look after his own accommodation with his gf. They should understand that you are not a housemaid.

So stop doing it, tell them you are on strike until they start helping, if you are in your brother's place move out, if your brother is living in your place, give him notice to move out!

Assign duties.

Are you cooking for THEM, or doing their laundry?

STOP until they start helping out.

beyond hope

Do what I did....GO ON STRIKE.

I bought a box of black trash bags. Every time things were left out, I put them in the trash bag and hauled it down to the basement. When anyone said "where is my...." I would state that the new cleaning lady put it in a bag in the basement. This included dishes, utensils, clothing, chargers, mail, and anything else that was not put in it's place.

Boy-o-boy, that really worked. With that, I refused to do laundry, cook, or clean dishes and I stopped going grocery shopping but only for what I cooked FOR MYSELF. Soon enough everyone got on board. Yes, it was incredibly difficult to live that way, but it was certainly effective and solved the problem.

Desperate people do desperate things and this was one of those times that an unconventional method to get everyone's attention really did get their attention.

People only do what is expected and they will live within the level of filth they can tolerate. You husband and brother are used to your doing EVERYTHING.. STOP doing everything. Tell them what you expect from them and then no matter what do not clean up for them. They will probably not change, but at least you will have given them the change to grow up and take some responsibility.

your husband and brother need to pitch in -- or eat somewhere else.

your daughter -- depending on age, she needs to have cleaning charoes as well

Just STOP doing any cleaning except for safety, such as dishes, counter tops, and the bathroom sink. When they ask, tell them they have 2 hands, get busy.

You've got to have a conversation or two around this subject and allocate chores for each person. Tell them that if the work isn't done, they are letting the household done. It isn't up to you to do it all. Point out that it is grossly unfair for you to do it all.