Can my husband blame my daughter for the problems in our marriage? My daughter has a different father (not in her life )?

He is blaming your daughter for your martial problems wake up and see the damage a adult can do by bringing her down regardless if he was cuck or not it’s not fair of him to blame her or make her feel like a burden You need to either seek counseling or divorce him.

Of course he can blame her.. That's what an immature loser would do.. blame a child for their own relationship failure.

You married a child. that's what happened. The guy has no idea how to relate to kids, and he's an idiot.

Your daughter is not your husbands bio kid? HMMM. That can mean 1 of 3 things- and I have a different answer for each. (You want the truth, right?)

1) Did you cheat on your husband and cuckolded him with another man’s baby? (Regardless of whether you and him were arguing or on a break it doesn’t matter, it still applies.)

If this, then yes, he has a right to be mad. I’d be mad up until the point that either you gave the kid up for adoption or I divorced you. I’d be mad and disgusted every single day that my wife willingly and happily gave birth to a man’s baby that wasn’t my own. It’s the ultimate disrespect and betrayal.

2) Did you have the baby before you ever met your husband- say, with an ex husband or something?

If this, then he has no real reason to be mad. If he knew you had a kid before he married you, then he should be accepting of it.

3) Also, unlikely 3rd option but I just wanna mention it:

if the kid is misbehaving, you need to fix that. And let him discipline her

Sucks being you!

Over N Out

Uh.....dear, your #1 responsibility is your DAUGHTER!!!!!!

Your husband comes in second every single time.

Sorry you married a man that's between you and your daughter - but you should ALWAYS choose your daughter.

You need to get your priorities straight.

CAN he? According to you, he already does. So what exactly are you asking us?

Please seek professional help before the situation escalates into physical violence or your daughter or husband leaves.

How can we know what all has gone on in your house to decide which 1 is the problem. Your daughter could be very disruptive in your marriage because he isn't her father and she doesn't think he has the right to tell her what to do. I would think the house is probably his or you would've made him move on. How long have you been married to him?

The most basic purpose of blame is to avoid responsibility by making other people be at fault.The more insecure a person is, the greater is his or her need to blame others.With people in denial, they have to be convinced that a problem exists before improvements can be made. With people who blame, they are already aware of the existence of problems.It’s important to be a loving spouse who just won’t put up with disrespect. Being either all loving or overly submissive will get you disrespect; while being too tough will create distance. But, if you combine loving communication with good boundaries you will improve your relationship.