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Sleepover with the guy I'm attracted to?
So I'm 23 years old and I met this guy nearly 2 years ago and pretty much liked him straight away. He's sweet, he's funny and he gets me. And like during the past year or so I've been going through a rather rough period, as some former friends spread lies about me and lost me most of my friends. Fortunately this guy didn't buy into them lies and stuck by me and has helped me get over it. I lost a lot of self-confidence after it happened.
Anyway, this guy has a super close relationship with this girl, let call her Liz (and I'll call the guy Steve) to the point that everyone thinks they are together which has always made me extremely jealous and also I was feeling really depressed lately. Anyway, long story short I ended up telling Steve how I felt about him, the friendship felt kinda awkward with me keeping it to myself.
Anyway, he told me he isn't ready for a relationship at the minute but he considers me his closest friend (which has made me way less jealous of Liz) and that he does love me and perhaps in the future things can be more between us.
Anyway, we're still really good friends and he recently invited me to have a sleepover with him and Liz. Gonna drink booze, watch movies and I'm gonna bring my PS4.
Just worried that drinking and getting drunk around him might not be a good idea. To my understanding we'll be sharing a room together and like well he has already made is position clear on the dating front for the time being.
Should I perhaps hold off on...
...drinking during the sleepover? I just think that might look weird though if him and Liz are getting drunk and plus I do kinda want to unwind myself. But when I'm drunk I do tend to get a bit flirtatious and I don't want to do anything that could damage our friendship right now.
I'm pretty certain he isn't dating Liz. Steve is struggling with some mental health issues at the minute and isn't dating anyone. He quite openly makes it clear he doesn't want a girlfriend. Not just to me but to everyone.
Also he knows I would never consent to a threesome as I don't believe in sex before marriage which he knows.
2 réponses
- ?Lv 7il y a 5 ans
Sleepovers are for kids. What he is proposing sounds like a threesome. I can't think of any adults who do things like this. Call me old fashioned but that's just weird.
Furthermore, I don't know if I buy into you being his best friend with this Liz person in the picture.
I think something is going on and you just don't realize it yet.
- ?Lv 7il y a 5 ans
Sounds like to me he is planning on having a 3some with both of you, a lotta booze, kissing and huggind leads to sex. Maybe that is his idea of getting to be better friends. I'd hold off until it could be just the 2 of you unless you like the idea of the 3 of you being together for the night.