Is it really better to be honest???

Question

I am a 33yo guy. I suffer from depression, am on anti depressants, have loads of emotional baggage, drug addict sister, prostitute mother, a daughter I hardly ever see, hate myself, have dyslexia, 2 friends who I might see once a week, I think about suicide but would never do it, I used to cut myself to feel pain just to feel something...anything, I am a emotional cripple as I feel no love for anyone including myself. I want to change, meet new people get that lust for life back. I want to get a girlfriend as well. The above thoughts weigh on my mind but how soon can you say these thing to someone who you want to let in. Being honest can have people running for miles!!! When you meet a woman when can you be yourself and stop being the person who is waiting to be liked enough to  be able to show the real person inside.

Anonyme · Accepted Answer

This is a classic case of how you use your past as an excuse for all your failures.  You see yourself as crap and all this failure.  That is why girls run away from you.  Be a man, don't be dishonest, but don't identify yourself as all these problems.  Get a hobby, workout, do something to identify yourself with.  The girls run away not because you're honest/dishonest, but because you are focusing your life on all the crap that has happened to you.

Get over it and get on with your life.

psycho magnet · Answer

No matter what your issues are in life, it is always the best to be honest. If all is true here, why are not in an institution? Or writing screen plays and making an azz load of loot.

cookies · Answer

ok i see you have a lot on your mind. and its good you want to change who you are. yes sometimes telling the truth isnt always the best option. but then in a relationship you shouldnt have secrets. if you find a women who loves you for who you are then you shouldnt keep secrets from them as a relationship shouldnt have any secrets. You will get your life back on track but these things take time. i hope that helped.

Anonyme · Answer

Don't say anything...What's in the past is just that, so leave it there, it's not lieing, just...Not going to do you any good to talk about it.

Go see a hypnotherapist in your area, they will help you reduce your depression to get your life back on track.

nene111782 · Answer

If you meet someone you are interested in, you do not have to unload all of this on them at once. Let them get to know you first. If someone gets to know you and likes the person you are, then much of this stuff will not matter to them.

Sexton · Answer

you need to start loving yourself, knowing how much you matter to you and stop cutting yourself and deal with your feelings... embracing in the torture you feel is whats best for you right now, the sooner you embrace within and stop fighting is the sooner you feel better inside..

minerva · Answer

you need to get a plant first...you can deal with this stuff as most of it isn't even your own stuff...keep working on yourself and the right woman will come along

kadavre · Answer

to be honest im sure your a great guy and you got to keep telling your self that....

Know unless someone asks about it theres no need to tell them

Your not excatly going to go hey im bob i suffer from  depression ect..

Everyone has bad things about them but they allso have good things.

JM · Answer

you should tell a woman once you're comfortable with her! don't spill everything the 1st five minutes. if she truly cares, then knowing won't matter to her!

Is it really better to be honest???

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